My dad was born in 1917, served as a drill sergeant in WWII, and died in 1987 of an unexpected heart attack. I get a lot of what you're saying but I do feel like he did a good job of teaching me to be community-focused.
Something I read about parents of his generation that explains a lot about Boomers and older Xers is that Silent Gen parents went through a lot of hardships and tried to prepare their kids for a hard world, while fixing the world so it wasn't hard. Now people don't understand that the structures they built are what keeps the world from being a lot harder. (This is more a US pov than elsewhere but it resonates a lot for me.)
For me those instructions about how to live in a hard world were super helpful in navigating life with a progressive chronic illness and chronic pain. I'm glad you're getting what you need from your faith leaders now.
My dad was born in 1917, served as a drill sergeant in WWII, and died in 1987 of an unexpected heart attack. I get a lot of what you're saying but I do feel like he did a good job of teaching me to be community-focused.
Something I read about parents of his generation that explains a lot about Boomers and older Xers is that Silent Gen parents went through a lot of hardships and tried to prepare their kids for a hard world, while fixing the world so it wasn't hard. Now people don't understand that the structures they built are what keeps the world from being a lot harder. (This is more a US pov than elsewhere but it resonates a lot for me.)
For me those instructions about how to live in a hard world were super helpful in navigating life with a progressive chronic illness and chronic pain. I'm glad you're getting what you need from your faith leaders now.